Proposal Do’s and Don’ts: Lessons from Real Engagements

Every proposal tells a story. Some are perfectly smooth, others have little hiccups along the way, but those moments often become part of the charm. Over the years, I’ve had the honor of photographing countless proposals in Charleston, and I’ve learned that a few simple do’s and don’ts can make all the difference in creating a memory that feels seamless and unforgettable.

Do: Plan Ahead

Even the most spontaneous proposals benefit from a little forethought. Think about the location, the timing, and how the moment will unfold. If you’re proposing in a public place, consider the time of day to avoid heavy crowds. If it’s on the beach, check the tides and sunset times.

Planning doesn’t take away the magic. It ensures you can be fully present when the moment happens.

Don’t: Overcomplicate It

Grand gestures are beautiful, but your proposal doesn’t need to be a Broadway production. The heart of this moment is your connection, not the number of rose petals or balloons. I’ve seen proposals with elaborate setups and ones with just two people on a quiet street. Both were equally meaningful.

Focus on what feels authentic to your relationship. That’s what will make the memory timeless.

Do: Add Personal Touches

The sweetest proposals often include details unique to the couple. Maybe it’s your partner’s favorite flowers, a song that holds meaning for both of you, or a location tied to your story. These small touches don’t need to be extravagant. They just need to reflect who you are together.

When I photograph these moments, those details always shine. They remind you, years later, why this moment was so perfectly yours.

Don’t: Forget About Comfort

Think about your partner’s personality when planning. If they’re shy and don’t love the spotlight, a crowded proposal in the middle of a busy street might not feel right. On the other hand, if they thrive on big gestures, they may love a group-inclusive celebration.

The proposal is for them, so make sure the setting and atmosphere match their comfort level.

Do: Think About Lighting and Timing

As a photographer, I can tell you that light changes everything. Proposing at golden hour, the hour before sunset, creates a romantic glow that feels cinematic. Sunrise, on the other hand, offers a quiet intimacy with soft, dreamy light.

Whatever time you choose, think about how it will feel in the moment and how it will look in your photos.

Don’t: Leave Out the Post-Proposal Plan

The “yes” is just the beginning. After the question is asked and the ring is slipped on, what comes next? Whether it’s a celebratory dinner, a walk along Charleston’s cobblestone streets, or a surprise gathering with family and friends, having a plan keeps the excitement flowing.

I’ve found that couples treasure this part almost as much as the proposal itself.

Do: Capture the Moment

You’ll want to relive this moment again and again, and having it photographed makes that possible. As your proposal photographer, I’ll be there to quietly document the look on your face, the reaction, and all those in-between moments you might miss in the excitement.

Years from now, those images will take you right back to the feeling of that day.

Final Thought

Proposals don’t have to be perfect to be unforgettable. They just need to feel true to your story. With a little planning, personal touches, and a focus on your partner’s comfort, your proposal will be everything it’s meant to be and more.

Let’s make your Charleston proposal one you’ll never forget.